February 3, 2020March 17, 2020 FOGA

Life Update 2020

Lifestyle

Happy 2020!!!! Sorry for being gone so long.
Things have been hella crazy around here, so I thought I would do sort of a catch-up life update on everything that’s been happening. At least, that was my idea about a month ago. Then things kept happening (such is life) and now I’ve just had to accept that it will keep happening and try to desensitize myself to it. So, here are the highlights of what’s been happening.

Family Medical Issues

My in-laws have not been doing well. We found out on Christmas Day that my mother in law has a brain aneurysm that’s 7mm (someone only a 1% chance of this being a problem). She’s also on medical leave from her job due to a workplace injury and physical therapy has not been going well due to worker’s comp.

Then (same day) my father in law fell and busted his head open. He fell because he was drunk and his diabetic so that doesn’t work out well. On top of that, he’s on blood thinners so it was a mess. Thankfully he was fine and we took all the alcohol with us before we left. He also started therapy and got into AA after this.

https://twitter.com/fromonegeek/status/1215424355133460480

Then about 2-3 weeks later (right when I got back from vacation), my father in law ended up in the emergency room because he couldn’t remember his name, birthday, what year it was etc… They asked him the year and he said 24. He also ended up in what I would consider the WORSE hospital in the history of life. We waited over 36 hours for a neurologist to see him. Thankfully, he is doing much better now. He had fluid in his brain which was caused by his falls which were caused by his high blood sugar which was caused by him not having the proper insulin. His blood sugar was over 500 when he was in the hospital. Now his blood sugar has come down into normal levels and he’s working with his doctors to stay there.

Still very scary to go through for everybody.

Work Issues

I left my community of 2.5 years on the 14th of November, had a two-week break that felt like anything but a break and then started at my new community. During my time off I sold a home, went to a mandatory volunteering event (is it even possible to do mandatory volunteering?), and spent a large amount of time thinking I was going to be let go. They gave me the time off since the new section wasn’t ready to sell yet. Then I learned it would be even further delayed, so I was concerned.

I ended up speaking to my boss and learning that they would just move me to the new community anyway and that would be fine. Then why didn’t they move me there in November since there was essentially no difference?

Then, I finally started in this new community. To say it was a disorganized mess would be an enormous understatement. Their set up made no sense and I spent the majority of my start there just getting everything up to basic standards.

Then I learn that there’s a power play at work between my two partners. They get along, but heaven help us all if they both feel they are entitled to the same sale. So, I pretty made us hash that out as quickly as possible. Working in a hostile environment is no fun. Thankfully we seem to have gotten this worked out and there haven’t been any issues since I got there.

The biggest thing has been with the new section. It was delayed longer than we were expecting. It was supposed to be ready in November and just opened yesterday (2/1/2020). That also means that homes won’t close until September/October. So, we will have quite a gap in our paychecks since what we are selling now will all close by June. That would be 3-4 months without a paycheck.

Hooray for the emergency fund I guess. We have time to plan for it, but I would be lying if I said this didn’t worry me at all.

On top of all of this, I had one person cancel and may have another by the end of February depending on how things go.

An interesting time for sure.

Vacation

I did go on the cruise with my mom. We went to Grand Cayman and Cozumel. It was her first cruise in four years so she had a lot of fun.

We got to get a tour around the Grand Cayman which was a bucket list item for my mom. That included going around the island, visiting Hell (yes they have a stop named Hell), and getting to see the turtles. There were a lot of turtles.

In Cozumel, we went to the beach and just spent the day relaxing. Lots of fun. The desserts on the ship were great. I had lots of cake. 😀

The only real issue was that the ship was rocking A LOT. More than any other ship I have been on previously. Lots of people were seasick due to it. Even when the ship was docked it felt like were cruising through rough seas. Thankfully Mom and I were mostly unaffected by it.

Mr. FOGA’s Job

After getting back from everything with his dad, we learned that Mr. FOGA’s job was being eliminated. This is now the second time in three years that this has happened. However, I would consider it to be a good thing this time.

When his old boss called to let him know this, he let him know the options in the store. He could have his pick of the part-time or full-time positions available. He also let him know that his previous supervisor/management position was being broken up into two positions for the two departments (they finally figured out that it’s too much for one person) and he could have his pick of those as well. Lastly, he could quit and leave once his position was eliminated and focus on IT.

This lead to a long talk and heart to heart. Long story short, IT is out. He’s been part-time since October and has gotten maybe two hours of work done with it. Basically, he’s not really interested in pursuing it. His mother, on the other hand, is VERY interested in him pursuing it, but that’s a story for another time. 😊

He has opted to take on one of the management positions which will be effective once his current position is eliminated. His old boss is glad to have him back and is working to get his pay increased to more than what it was before. He has 1-2 months to enjoy his remaining part-time position before he goes back into full-time management.

So, now we’re just waiting on that.

My Health

I’ve mentioned it on twitter before, but I am not sure if I have mentioned it here. I currently have a birth control implant to prevent us from having kids since, as you know, I don’t want any. It’s called Nexplanon. For a lot of people, it’s a simple insertion in your arm and you are protected from having kids and you get the bonus of your periods being light or non-existent. For me, it worked that way for about 1.5 years.

Now, I have month-long periods and stronger anxiety and depression that I have normally (remember last June-August). For example, I was on my period from around Dec 20th to about Jan 23th and then it just came back on the 31st. It sucks royally.

So, I am getting the damn thing out and going back on the pill. Earliest they could fit me in was early March, so we wait until then. Still been a bitch to go through, but happy to have a light at the end of the tunnel.

Am I Back?

Honestly, I am not sure. Writing consistently has not been a thing for a while. I would say that I never forget about FOGA, but I am also not killing myself to write once a week. Right now, you may see 1-2 posts a month from me. You may see more as well. There’s no set schedule as of right now.

I promise to not have such a long gap in the future though. 🙂

Thanks for reading this life update!

-Ms.FOGA